There is a well known debate between those who think that married men using escort services are actually doing a “favor” to their spouses and those who claim that married men using escorts or having any kind of contact with women outside of their marriage are damaging their marriage and compromising their relationship. This is a fight between 2 different approaches, a liberal and a conservative.
The world we are living in today makes commitment close to impossible. Temptation is
everywhere and shame seems to be slowly vanishing from our life. Moreover, many claim that the basics of human nature are such that prevents us from being with the same partner for a long period of time. Love vanishes and the need for excitement overcomes the rational thinking. Keeping attraction through the years (with the same person) is a very hard task in which the vast majority of couples simply fail. Maybe it’s the very basic view of marriage that has to be dealt with first. People get married expecting to have a shiny life, with no bumps or hurdles and then they are shocked when euphoria fades away and reality strikes. And then, they grow apart, affairs take place and relationships break.
And then we get to the definition of cheating. Is cheating all about having sex with another
partner? Or is it actually getting emotionally involved with someone? Is it a physical need? An emotional need? Many scientists claim that there is a big difference in motivation and causes between men who cheat and women who cheat. Men are most likely to cheat because they need sex while women look for emotional feedback. Coming to this, it does strike as if cheating is a way to stay in a relationship, especially for men. A guy might be happy (more or less) with his relationship with his wife and what she offers him emotionally but may be lacking some sexual excitement. This is no reason to break a marriage. He can try and “light the fire” back on with his wife (surely not an easy task), or, as many do, find that temporary excitement elsewhere. And that is where escorts step into the picture.
Choosing what is best for you is very individual. There is no right or wrong. But it is quite safe to say that as long as you do not develop any feelings towards the person you are “cheating” with, the chances of breaking your marriage are low (I recently read a story about a guy who fell in love with an escort in las vegas and that kind of stories do exist but they are rare). In that aspect, you can trust an escort not to develop any feelings. Now choose for yourself what is best for you.
The world we are living in today makes commitment close to impossible. Temptation is
everywhere and shame seems to be slowly vanishing from our life. Moreover, many claim that the basics of human nature are such that prevents us from being with the same partner for a long period of time. Love vanishes and the need for excitement overcomes the rational thinking. Keeping attraction through the years (with the same person) is a very hard task in which the vast majority of couples simply fail. Maybe it’s the very basic view of marriage that has to be dealt with first. People get married expecting to have a shiny life, with no bumps or hurdles and then they are shocked when euphoria fades away and reality strikes. And then, they grow apart, affairs take place and relationships break.
And then we get to the definition of cheating. Is cheating all about having sex with another
partner? Or is it actually getting emotionally involved with someone? Is it a physical need? An emotional need? Many scientists claim that there is a big difference in motivation and causes between men who cheat and women who cheat. Men are most likely to cheat because they need sex while women look for emotional feedback. Coming to this, it does strike as if cheating is a way to stay in a relationship, especially for men. A guy might be happy (more or less) with his relationship with his wife and what she offers him emotionally but may be lacking some sexual excitement. This is no reason to break a marriage. He can try and “light the fire” back on with his wife (surely not an easy task), or, as many do, find that temporary excitement elsewhere. And that is where escorts step into the picture.
Choosing what is best for you is very individual. There is no right or wrong. But it is quite safe to say that as long as you do not develop any feelings towards the person you are “cheating” with, the chances of breaking your marriage are low (I recently read a story about a guy who fell in love with an escort in las vegas and that kind of stories do exist but they are rare). In that aspect, you can trust an escort not to develop any feelings. Now choose for yourself what is best for you.
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